My name is Oksana, I met my future husband Egor at the polyclinic. I had an internship there, and he was my supervisor. We started dating, then decided to get married.My husband brought me to meet his parents, and I can say that I fell in love with my father-in-law at first sight. It was impossible not to fall in love with him: tall, stately — he was a military doctor.
We got married, and after the wedding, my father arranged for my husband and me to work with him in a military hospital. My husband often went on business trips for work, and on one of them I asked my father-in-law to come to our house. I set the table, bought a bottle of cognac, and waited. He came, saw and understood what I was up to and said:
«I liked you from the first day, but I don’t want to destroy my son’s family. But since he will often go on business trips, and you will be alone, it’s better for me than someone else.»
You will probably think how I could have gone to bed practically with my father; I will answer that I could: I loved him very much. I gave birth to two children, from my father-in-law, and my husband thought that everything was fine with him, until my husband unexpectedly arrived earlier from a business trip.
You know what happened, they separated from my husband, my father-in-law stopped communicating with me, even fired me from work, as a result I was left alone. His father-in-law did not leave his wife, he asked her for forgiveness and told her everything. The man quit and went very far away; he communicates only with his mother.
I applied for alimony for my husband, but the court did not award them to me. The father-in-law helps, because the children are his, but my children constantly ask, where is daddy, where is grandpa; and what can I tell them, that it’s not grandpa, but dad. I went to my parents, but they didn’t take me, and I rented an apartment, got a job, the children go to kindergarten — that’s how I live. I never got married, my father-in-law soon retired, he does not communicate with me and the children, even my parents do not communicate with me.
When my dad got sick and came to see a doctor, he came to me, he didn’t say a word, turned around and left, and then went to another doctor. A lot of years have passed, the children have grown up, they are studying in medical school, they are doing well, and I was left alone, I don’t need anyone except my father-in-law: it was love for my whole life.
And my ex-husband got married soon, but he did not introduce his father-in-law to his new family. He’s doing well; to be honest, I was very happy for him, he’s not a bad person, but I didn’t love him, that’s all.
Now I am very many years old, I want to tell you all: who was or is in such a situation as I am, then I ask you very much, do not destroy either your family or someone else’s: it will not bring happiness to anyone. Don’t be a spare airfield for anyone, no matter how much you love.